Every Change in Life Just Makes Room for Opportunity:

A veil of ignorance, or rather idealism, can end in disappointment. But, should you give up hope for fear of failure? Probably not. I know I keep myself guarded and closed off, because it's easier that way. But, do you realize how much you miss out on by taking the easy route?

If you want to do something, why don't you just do it? We let so many things get in the way & make so many excuses for our lives. Life is rather limited, but luckily it is composed of a multitude of our own personal decisions. So, we get to make the most of it, according to our own standards.

What are your standards? Do you let the current easily pull you along, or do you fight back trying to capture a beautiful shell? It's easy to float along the river of life, but it's much more of an adventure, much more worthwhile, making your own unique path. You'll find many beautiful things you may have missed going another way.

Every change, good or bad, defines us. It changes our lives. We can let those changes guide us or simply influence us. Choose to be different. Choose to learn. Choose to be stronger.

Sorry to interrupt! Not sorry enough to not do it:

Why does it seem we are always apologizing? We apologize for actions, appearances, thoughts... Why? After being brought to my attention, it really started to bother me. People apologize and make excuses frequently. Think before you act, and maybe you wouldn't need to apologize. What is the purpose of making an excuse for your actions? Just own up to them. I'm not going to apologize for who I am, and I'm not going to be someone I'm not. I shouldn't have to make excuses for myself. Io sono quello che sono: I am what I am. Why be anything else?

iCarly

Spencer: Sorry to interrupt!

Carly: Not sorry enough to not do it.

((Yeah, I totally just quoted iCarly!))

Live, Learn & Come to Your Senses:

I am a strong believer that being with someone does not mean changing yourself. You should still do the things you love and hang out with who you want. Granted everyone makes compromises, but they shouldn't manipulate your life. Girls seem to have an extremely hard time with this. No, I am not discounting the overly controlling, jealous type guys. However, we will focus on girls mainly because I am one of them :)

Back to what I was saying. Girls like to fix things. Not the way guys like to fix cars (hey, I'm a girl & I like that too!), but more along the lines of fixing guys they find to be "flawed" or "broken." These bad boys who are actually just misunderstood... right? Um... no. In high school, I was convinced I could help everyone, and my friends were certain I would become a psychologist. But, some people don't need or want help. They are who they are. And, I was never meant to do that as a living.

Eventually, everyone should realize they aren't going to change others, and you shouldn't want to change them. You shouldn't have to change anyone. You can actually find people who are already amazing & worthy of your time, effort, etc... Everyone changes with time, I certainly have. But, it can't be a forced process.

Not only do girls try to change these guys, but they also try to change themselves. Through all of the beauty magazines & movie stars, girls lose their self-esteem and confidence. They want so badly to be wanted, loved and considered beautiful. So, they have eating disorders & put on makeup. They change themselves to meet the standards of what they think guys want. So, not only have you lost your identity, you let some jerk treat you like dirt and use your body as a sex toy?

Most girls rarely learn. They use and abuse the nice guys so much that they usually end up becoming jerks in an attempt to get the girl who won't even give them the time of day otherwise. The thing is, if you can't see yourself as a beautiful and intelligent person, you can't convince yourself that you deserve better. So many people spend their time settling.

I have broken hearts of some great guys and some not so great guys. The latter I'm not going to feel badly about, they could have treated me the way I deserved but they didn't. However, the good guys... yeah, that sucks. But, you can't feel badly about being honest with yourself. You can't change the way you feel or force yourself to care about someone in that way.

So many people settle in life. But, at least I can somewhat respect the girls who settle for the nice guys. I can't respect the ones who stay with the pricks.